Saturday, February 8, 2014

40 Days Till 40 (Day 34)


WORRISOME HABIT

With a faint air of melancholy still lingering from the previous day, I was, not surprisingly, again at a loss as to what to write.  I received support and kudos from unexpected places today (even, amusingly, a fortune cookie) and so I found myself emboldened and supported as I work toward the future.  

Today, I went to meetings for future (and current) projects.  Despite whatever else I may seem, I am a dreamer, if not a planner.  Perhaps the applications of my plans seem spontaneous, but believe me, most of my plans are thought over and through and then over and through again.  I am a worrier. 

In the last few years, my worrying has caused me greater angst than necessary.  In the last few months, however, I have been attempting to stop worrying quite so much.  I am not always successful.  Worrying, however, never accomplishes anything—except bringing me more worry.  And what really is worry, but fear?

So what is it I worry about?  I am sure they are the usual fears that most people have:  loneliness, boredom, inaction, parenthood, money (or lack thereof). Admittedly, last year was a rough one for me.  I felt like my worries drew me into a black hole, sucking out my joy until all I wanted to do was just stay in bed, aimlessly watching television.  I am sure you can understand the difficulty this causes for a relatively happy-go-lucky person.

Which reminds me of a conversation I recently had with a friend of mine about happiness.  This friend is, almost as a rule, the person I go to when I have questions that require an incisive, laser-sharp clarity and rationality.  We were discussing a book called The How of Happiness, which takes a scientific approach to determine one’s level of happiness.  I asked her whether she thought I was “happy”—a bizarre question, as perception is always a finicky little beast.  She responded that for the most part, yes.  I’d just had to deal with a lot of sh*t lately.  Ain’t that the truth?

How best, then, to deal with all of that sh*t?  It is clearly not by worrying about it.  While I cannot yet stop worrying entirely, I am trying to not focus so much time or energy on worrying.  Actions bring about positivity and change more than worry ever could, right?  Right?!  Gah.

Now if only I weren’t so d*mned tired…Ha. 

Until tomorrow, Lovelies….

*For 2/6/14.  Of course, I worried if you even noticed that I didn't post it for two days.  Lol.

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