Wednesday, January 22, 2014

40 Days Till 40 (Day 18)


SUGAR BYE HONEY PUNCH

If you’ve been following my blog, you may remember that I have attempted online dating twice since the divorce.  Neither time was anything short of a debacle.  As a result, I have not been tempted to try again in months (nor am I tempted now).  I have happily resigned myself to the fact that the only communication I will have will generally be with people I already know—or at least have already met. 

So when I got a text from someone I’d only communicated with via a dating website, I am sure you can imagine my reaction.  I had only ever given him my Google number (because a girl has got to protect herself), but when he got weird, I cut off all further communication with him.  No emails, texts, nothing. 

What would prompt such drastic measures, you ask?

In short, the dude asked me for money.  Apparently he had a psycho ex-wife (another red flag) who had taken his kid to Germany.  He needed the money to go to Germany to get his son back.  Remember, I had never met this guy in person.  Needless to say, my answer was, “Uh, no.” 

“It’s only $700, not a million, honey.”

It may as well have been a million.  Like I have $700 just sitting around?  Hi, single mom here.  Yes, I have financial assistance from the ex, but that doesn’t mean there’s any extra (and there certainly wasn’t at that time).

He was horribly offended, insisting that I could help, but just didn’t want to.  Apparently that makes me a horrible person.

I told him, “And we’re done here.”

And we were.  I had no interest in pursuing communication—especially with someone who didn’t understand my situation and therefore thought I was awful for not putting his needs first. 

So then he texts me, out of the blue, after several months, “How you doing, honey?” 

Wait, what?  Honey, indeed.  Hmph. 

A friend of mine recently told me that I need to visualize positive male energy surrounding me and it will come to me.  Apparently I didn’t do that very well.  Or maybe it’s opposite day? 

Hmmmmmmm.

Until tomorrow, Lovelies….

*Written 1/21/14.

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